Today, my marriage is three years old.
(All photos credit the amazing Becky Hill. It was impossible to choose, and if I didn’t think it’d bore you, I would have included about 97 more photographs!)
In honor of this momentous occasion, I give you three things I have learned about marriage since Goose and I tied the knot on June 21, 2008.
1. There are a lot of things that your family does different than other families. Things like stacking the cups in the cabinets. That simple. You never realized that other people did them differently until suddenly there is someone else in your house, doing things the wrong way and claiming that it’s the way they should be done. You will have to compromise. (I won the battle of the cups.)
2. You will fight. Sometimes you will fight about ridiculous things. It’s entirely possible that you may end up throwing laundry at your spouse’s head because (s)he put the “dry clean only” laundry into the washing machine and you found it all wet and soggy. When it’s over, you will laugh about it. Maybe not right away, but eventually you will laugh about it and move on. People who say they don’t fight are full of it. But every fight should teach you something and help your marriage grow.
3. When married people told you that marriage is not 50/50, it’s 100/100, they meant it. You don’t meet halfway in marriage. For marriage to succeed, both people have to give it their all… all of the time. Sure, sometimes my all is a little less, and sometimes Goose’s all is a little less. But as long as we both give it all we’ve got, we’ll be okay. We’ll be better than okay.
I mean… look at us.